The 4 Letter Word That You Should Use Every Day
But there is another 4 letter word in the English language that has the ability to transform your life. Granted it doesn't fit into the same category as the ones I was referring to above, which is a good thing as this one has more power. It has the power to heal wounds; it has the power to brighten someone's day.
Interestingly enough it doesn't get used enough. If you knew one little word, if used constantly could not only transform the life of others but yours as well would you use it?
So what is this magical word anyway?
By now you may be thinking and feeling a little incredulous. Love is that it? Yes it is but you may be thinking of it in the wrong way. This isn't about romantic love. While romantic love certainly is part of this love, you will soon discover it is so much more.
What I am talking about here is real love, true love, that true appreciation and understanding. It is unconditional, forgiving, compassionate, giving. It is kind and grateful.
Think about something or someone you love. Not in a romantic way (although it most certainly could be the same person) in the way described above. Perhaps it is a baby, a child, a pet. Think about those feelings for a moment; let them well up inside you. It is a feeling after all, so be sure to feel it.
How good do you feel? Awesome, isn't it?
Can you imagine what tapping into that everyday would do?
Perhaps you do feel this way for the things you love in your life everyday. Perhaps you even say those words, I love you. But do you say it to the most important person in the world?
Most important person? Who is that?
The most important person in your life is YOU. When was the last time you told yourself that you love you? This isn't about conceit. Conceit is when you think you're the only one with strengths and everyone else inferior to you. Loving yourself is being confident in yourself, knowing your strengths, appreciating them, appreciating you.
One of the most powerful techniques is to stand in front of a mirror everyday and say "I love you." That is great but how much would you like it to be better than great. If you had the chance to knock this out of the ball park, would you do it?
Take out a piece of paper and write down ten things you appreciate and love about yourself. They could be physical features, they could be characteristics or they could be they way you handle yourself. They could be a combination of all of the above or even more. Can't think of ten things, keeping trying, they are there you only have to look for them. But if you are drawing a blank, write as many as you can. I would strongly suggest that you find five. If you can't, then you aren't looking hard enough.
Doing this practice takes a couple of minutes, so doing it twice a day will have a tremendous effect. Once is good, but twice better. Stand in front of a mirror, close the door so you won't be disturbed. Look yourself in the eye when you say this. At first you may feel uncomfortable, you may even cry. That's OK and all perfectly normal. If you are like most people you probably haven't ever said anything like this to yourself. Whatever happens, allow it to be OK; because it is.
Say your name, then say I love you and I really appreciate …. (fill in the ten things off your list). Allow the feelings well up inside. Allow yourself to love yourself. Allow yourself to appreciate yourself.
Try it for 30 days and see what happens. You will be amazed.