Healing The Inner Critic
You've heard those voices say things like:â?¨ •You never finish what you startedâ?¨ •You tried something like this before and failed.
Why do you think it will be different this time?â?¨ •You didn't grow up in a family that did things like this.
â?¨ •Don't be so full of yourself, this isn't for someone like you.
â?¨ •What makes you think you can do this? â?¨ Over the course of a lifetime, we've been conditioned by our genetics, our environment, schools and the media, to name a few.
On the whole we would have internalised more negative than positive messages, leaving us with a very strong and vocal inner critic.
In order to turn off the inner critic and dissolve the inner conflict, you might want to try these ideas: •Shift your inner critic messages to messages of accomplishment - whenever your negative voices show up, remind yourself of the positive qualities you possess.
•Celebrate your successes, no matter how smallthey may seem •List all the things you accomplished in 2013.
Even if at first thought your immediate reaction is a blank or the inner voice say.
"nothing" there will be some.
•Ponder on the critical message.
Is it true? Is there a bit of truth? Or is it a lie? •Look yourself in a mirror and say, "Yes, this may be true about me, AND this is also true.
" For example: "Yes, sometimes I do procrastinate and I am really productive when I put my mind to it.
" In they way you are consciously creating a balance within your own mind and this helps you to feel better about yourself.
Also ask yourself, "Why do I let the inner critic always puts me down?" "What am I getting out of it" Just remember, when you hear the critical voice asking "Just who do you think you are?" you have the power to turn the volume up, down, or better yet, turn it off.
Replace that negative voice with a supportive, loving positive one that speaks power into who you are.